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  1. How long have you been practicing BDSM?
  2. How do you identify on the BDSM spectrum: Dom, sub, switch or other?
  3. At what age did your interest in BDSM start?
  4. What triggered your interest? (movie, book, friend, partner, your own fantasy?)
  5. How long from the time you had interest until you actually experimented with BDSM?
  6. Did you have any difficulties or challenges in exploring your interest?
  7. Do you feel BDSM is a sexual orientation or simply a fun activity or sexual hobby?
  8. What BDSM practices do you enjoy most, and why?
  9. What are the benefits and rewards to your BDSM relationships?
  10. What are the benefits and rewards to you personally as a individual?
  11. Are you part of a BDSM community, and why or why not?
  12. Do you “play” with a number of people or just one partner? What’s your preference?
  13. Do you share your BDSM proclivities with other people in your life? Are you “out?” Why or why not?
  14. What do you think are the biggest misconceptions about BDSM? What do you wish other people knew about it?
  15. Would you be satisfied going back to vanilla sex?
  16. What advice would you give to someone new to BDSM?

popular articles

academic articles

  • Bondage-Discipline, Dominance-Submission and Sadomasochism (BDSM) From an Integrative Biopsychosocial Perspective: A Systematic Review
    — ncbi
  • Fifty Shades of Belgian Gray: The Prevalence of BDSM-Related Fantasies and Activities in the General Population
    — isiarticles.com
  • Sexual diversity in the United States: Results from a nationally representative probability sample of adult women and men
    — ncbi
  • The Language of Pain: A Philosophic Study of BDSM
    — Sagepub
  • Sensual, Erotic, and Sexual Behaviors of Women from the “Kink” Community
    — ncbi
  • Between Pleasure and Pain: A Pilot Study on the Biological Mechanisms Associated With BDSM Interactions in Dominants and Submissives
    — ncbi
  • A "Different Economy of Bodies and Pleasures"?: Differentiating and Evaluating Sex and Sexual BDSM Experiences
    — ncbi
  • A Systematic Scoping Review of the Prevalence, Etiological, Psychological, and Interpersonal Factors Associated with BDSM
    — ncbi
  • Consensual Sadomasochistic Sex (BDSM): The Roots, the Risks, and the Distinctions Between BDSM and Violence
    — researchgate.net
  • Evolutional background of dominance/submissivity in sex and bondage
    — ncbi

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