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While this site is more about the “why” of BDSM, and less about the “how,” the how is the fun part, and always interesting to read about. Here are some thoughts and resources on how BDSM plays out in the bedroom.

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In weighing the frequently-asked question whether a Dominant can be considered “good” or “bad,” a submissive can find numerous articles all over the Internet that list desirable characteristics in a Dom, characteristics such as confidence, creativity, consistency, maturity, self-awareness, etc. Certainly, naturally dominant traits are advantages when assessing the quality of a Dominant. But I am going to take a different approach and say that that it is not necessarily a Dom’s character traits that are most important, but his or her motivation. [...]

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10 Commandments for Dominas

by Mistress Lila

Most people who give BDSM or the D/s lifestyle a try are exploring non-traditional play as a way to spice up their sex lives, or perhaps learn more about themselves and their desires. While these readers may gain some insights through My missives, in this particular blog post I am writing for those individuals who securely understand their role in the D/s life. [...]

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With the thrilling discovery that one enjoys the submission side of BDSM, many an eager sub finds him/herself longing to be “trained” by a Dominant. Lucky for their Doms, manuals on submissive training abound on book-selling sites. Some of these manuals are good, and some are bad (and badly written). Yet, all are incomplete with their generic, one-way advice on what the Dom can do to mold the sub’s behavior. [...]

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In the first years of our D/s relationship, my Daddy Dom husband and I gave scant attention to the concept of aftercare, no matter how kinky we got in the bedroom. Yes, we constantly came across the advice to finish up BDSM play with a period of aftercare, often hearing it described as an “integral” part of a scene. [...]

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Dollar Store Domme

by Mistress Lila

BDSM offers lots of fun toys and outfits that personify its sexual edginess, and newbies are often drawn to the cool leather outfits and delightfully uncomfortable looking accoutrément. But, the reality is that while the props are titillating, true Domination comes from the inside and has nothing to do with the fantasy-driven consumer products for sale. [...]

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My dominant Daddy has added a new step to our across-his-lap spanking ritual every evening. He spanks me, he stirs my pussy with two fingers, and then also slips a finger in my bottom hole and stirs it, too. As he pushes pleasure/pain into my ass, my body soaks it in and absorbs it like a sponge, until all my cells feel full and heavy and still with it. I go into such an altered state that I lose track of time. And I find myself craving for him to penetrate me there near constantly. [...]

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Submissive Triggers

by Terra Bloom

I know how a “submissive trigger” feels long before I came across the phrase on the internet. I know being on my knees in front of my husband and taking his cock into my mouth makes me feel surrendered. I know his hand grabbing me by the throat does it. I know him pulling my hair does it, or grabbing me by the wrist and pulling me along like a child, or putting me over his lap. Having him shove my head down against the bed really does it. [...]

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It is my dominant Daddy’s habit to push open my legs in the morning, and slide his fingers inside me. We call it “pussy stirring,” the way he swirls his fingers round and round, then thrusting and banging for awhile, until I feel I am getting close to orgasm. Then he pauses and starts again. [...]

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After several weeks of stretching myself across my dominant Daddy’s lap for nightly “discipline,” I now have a solid idea of what makes a good spanking. The kind of spanking that works strange magic and turns pain into pleasure. The kind of spanking that releases the right amount of endorphins or dopamine or whatever natural chemicals send me into a sweet trance and make me lose track of time. The kind of spanking that makes me rise up from Daddy’s lap with a red, burning bottom to look at him with adoring eyes. [...]

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